I’m sure you’ve been asked this question.

Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

In my experience, usually, the person asking is trying to gauge your level of friendliness or social standing. But when analyzed, what is the benefit of asking or answering this question? I think there is an even more fundamental and important question to be answered.

Are you building good relationships?

Who cares if you are introverted, staying home whenever possible and having two close friends, including your dog, or extroverted, the life of the party going out whenever possible if the outcomes of both environments are negative?

Scarcity nor quantity matter if the outcome of both is negative.

Your one close friend or 20 friends are equally bad if they are a drain you. Instead of focusing on being extroverted or introverted focus on whether the relationships you are building are beneficial.

So often we can get caught up in the illogical trends of our culture, idolizing being popular and basing our performance or happiness on someone else.

Life is not me compared to you.

Life is me compared to myself yesterday.

Life is you compared to yourself yesterday.

So I encourage you to answer the better question ” Are you building good relationships?”