Comparison as a whole is not an inherent negative.

In fact, there are benefits to comparison specifically upward comparison.

Upward comparison is disambiguated from downwards comparison by two factors. First is that upward comparison inspires positive change and motivation. Secondly, downward comparison analysis others in a negative way putting them down to make oneself feel better.

Upwards comparison can be a benefit because it serves as a motivator. When you compare yourself to someone who you admire, the important factor is that their achievements aren’t unrealistic or impossible, it can motivate you.

It can be an encouraging factor. When you surround yourself with others who are succeeding it serves as a catalyst for your success. Research suggests, for example, that people will up their game solely based on their perception of the person exercising next to or with them. (PDF)

It can be an eye-opening gauge of what you consider normalcy. Upwards comparison brings attention to norms you accept that you may want to challenge.

I’m sure you are familiar with the study that your IQ is the average of your 5 closest friends, there is a similar trend when comparing other factors with your close friends.

Upwards comparison to our close friends can bring to attention “norms” or similar tendencies we might adopt because of our company. Topics like what we consider as a “norm” for our eating and even weight are included.

Within that premise, we can feel genuinely motivated to perform better (or to be lulled into acquiescence). One of our inclinations is to push ourselves – or in other cases, slouch – to match those around us.