Title: The Anatomy of Peace
Conflict resolution only starts when at least one party considers how they might be wrong. Therefore, the fastest way to burn a bridge to resolution is to refuse to consider how we ourselves might need to change.
I haven’t lived a single day where this wasn’t a needed reminder.
Conflict resolution is a vital skill, one that will be improved after reading the Anatomy of Peace.
Consider, are you holding yourself to the same standards you demand of others? Are you seeing people or objections?
These are cornerstones to emotional intelligence and avoiding fierce friction.
The more sure I am mistreated, the more likely I am to miss ways that I am mistreating others myself. My need for justification obscures truth.
As painful as it is to receive contempt from others, it is more debilitating by far to be filled with contempt for another.
The best negotiators understand the opposing side’s position, concerns, and worries as much as their own.
In every moment…we choose to see others either as people, like ourselves, or as objects.
A heart at war needs enemies to justify its warring – it needs enemies and mistreatment more than it wants peace. It can’t consider others’ objections & challenges enough to be able to find a way through them.
If group a is oppressing group b, group b must be careful not to become oppressors themselves, especially when justification of past abuse readily on hand.
No one, whatever their actions, can deprive me of the ability to choose my own way of being.
The peace we hope for depends not on the peace we seek or the wars we wage, but on the peace we establish inside.