Why is it that when we make life all about ourselves we become miserable?
And when we make life only about others, we find ourselves resentful and longing to be seen?
Because humans are hardwired for connection
Connection involves two and requires five and take.
That balance, between self confidence and selflessness, is not formulaic and never is struck by chance.
To start on your journey, consider, when do you feel most connected to others? What do the people around you need to feel connected?
An over emphasis on self reliance, the golden calf of America, can make this difficult.
An over emphasis on one’s ability glazes over the best parts of life: being able to support others in their growth.