Once you know how to spot and stop unhealthy internal criticism you might be asking, “What does healthy internal criticism look like?
The book “Logged In And Stressed Out” shares some good insight here. First by distinguishing the difference between guilt and shame.
Guilt – Emotions related to doing something wrong/bad.
Shame – Fundamentally feeling bad about oneself regardless of the situation.
Guilt is a good reaction and serves as a part of your conscious in many ways. Shame is something you’ll want to learn to identify and avoid completely.
Below, find some additional ways to move from unhealthy habits to healthy internal criticism.
Identify strengths and weaknesses — INSTEAD OF — Chronic criticism
Set ambitious goals — INSTEAD OF — Standards of perfection
Reveal false beliefs — INSTEAD OF — Living in shame
Identifying support friends — INSTEAD OF –Giving the internal negative narrative rule
Be patient as you develop awareness on how to take steps towards healthy criticism.